• Clothing: e.g. which socks, which t-shirt, which cap
• Food: what shape to cut sandwiches (halves or triangles), what spreads or fillings for sandwiches (marmite or honey), carrots cut in sticks or circles
• Appearance: Hair style – pig tails or one pony tail, plaited or straight, ribbons or not; haircuts – fringe or no fringe, shaved or not, short or long.
• What book to read
• Play activities.
• Who to invite for a birthday or to come over and play
• Who to make a card/letter for.
• In the beginning offer an either/or choice, for example: blue socks or red socks; marmite or peanut butter etc
• Progress to giving more open-ended choices such as: what shape would you like your sandwich today? What t-shirt would you like to wear today?
• Allow children to experience the consequences of their actions (provided they are not put in danger!)
• Have a drawer of clothes your child can freely choose from each day and a separate drawer for clothes that are not for everyday choice
• Have some cupboards or drawers for children to access and choose from and some that are not for them to use
• Have a box of books at your child’s level for them to freely choose from
• Have a designated ‘art and craft’ space with things your child can freely choose and use
Did you know:
• When children can make choices they are more motivated and engaged
• Giving children choices helps to minimise confrontation. When children feel a sense of control they are more likely be cooperative
What your child is learning:
• An increasing ability to determine their own actions
• That choices have consequences
• To think for themselves
• To be more independent
• About cause and effect
• It’s okay to think differently